Confidence courses Kent

I was sitting in the office that I shared with three other people at the advertising agency I worked at in Johannesburg. I was 22 years old and I was an accounts clerk.

A girl called Saffron breezed into the room perched on the edge of the desk and started regaling us all with the exploits of her weekend. Her personality filled the room, she looked fantastic and her weekend sounded so glamorous.  She was successful, respected by everyone in the agency and she was only 24. I wanted to BE her! I wanted to be as successful as her, as popular as her, as respected as her and as confident as her. Always happy, always full of smiles and always something positive to say, we all found ourselves drawn to her, and she was the kind of person you wanted to be around.

So what makes one person more confident than the next? Why can one person at 24 be full of confidence in themselves but another person at the same age will shrink into a corner and hope not to be noticed?

There are a number of factors that affect confidence. These include child hood experiences of;

• Bullying
• Disapproving authority figures (this can be parents ,teachers, older siblings, or family members
• Conflict between parents
• Child abuse or neglect
• Parents that were uninvolved or distracted during your upbringing due to marital problems, physical or mental illnesses, addictions, financial issues etc.
• Overly protective parents – so when you have to live in the real world as an adult you are ill prepared

However, adult experiences can also affect our confidence in ourselves.

• Divorce or relationship separation can leave your confidence in tatters.
• A sudden disability or illness can also affect your self-confidence.
• Redundancy, retirement, bereavement can all have an effect on confidence levels.

Off course not everyone is completely lacking in confidence in every aspect of their lives. Some people can be lacking confidence in just one area of their lives.

But, the thing that everyone with low self-confidence has in common is NEGATIVE THINKING.

Thoughts are filled with….. I can’t, I’ m not good enough, they are better than me, what will people think of me, what if I fail, what if I can’t do it, I’m too ugly, I’m too fat, I’m too short, I’m too tall……the list of negative thoughts are endless when people are trying to convince themselves they are not good enough.

Changing this negative self-talk to positive self-talk is the key to improving confidence.*Off course this is easier said than done and it does take a lot of hard work and concerted effort to change thought patterns, as these are usually ingrained in your brain from childhood.

Your brain has created negative neural pathways, most likely as a child, and each negative thought has just re-enforced the negative neural pathway. Therefore to become a positive thinker you need to create new and positive neural pathways that are stronger than the negative neural pathways. You can literally re-wire your own brain by consciously trying to think positively, by being mindful, by using meditation and of course by using hypnosis.*

Take a look at this interesting article in Psychology today by Christopher Bergland who talks about relevant and recent research on re-wiring the brain;

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201601/your-brain-can-be-trained-self-regulate-negative-thinking.

Have you ever noticed that successful people are usually very positive people?

A lot of people think that successful people are happy and positive BECAUSE they are successful. When in actual fact people that are successful, are successful BECAUSE THEY ARE POSITIVE THINKERS. Have you ever been around someone that never has anything nice to say, and everything that comes out of their mouth is negative? How does this person make you feel? Do you want to spend time with this person? Do you want to BE this person? In fact, people who are negative seem to drain you of energy.  But how many of us really examine our own thought processes and what we say?

So how can hypnosis help you become a positive thinker and hence much more confident?

Your subconscious mind is like a sponge and drives the conscious mind. By targeting the subconscious mind with direct and positive suggestion we can speed up the process of positive thinking. In a relaxed state your mind is more responsive and open to direct suggestion. Those deep ingrained negative thoughts can be replaced with positive and helpful thoughts to help you live the life you want to lead.*

So if you want to start your journey to a new you, contact me now on enquiries@dohypnosiskent or call me now on 01634307030.*

Please note results may vary from person to person. There are never guarantees when undergoing any form of therapy and for this reason we do not offer any guarantees for any of our hypnotherapy services. *